From Teano to Providence -- My father Tup -- The privilege of being poor -- My brother, my hero, Anthony -- The road is long -- A jand on your shoulder -- The importance of showing up -- Wrestling with a decision -- My two-year gap -- Asking for help is the first step to getting help -- Dealing with prejudice -- The world's greatest mom -- We can't choose family -- A PhD in human nature -- How prejudice affected my political career -- Becoming a judge -- The best meatballs -- Caught in Providence -- My first day as a judge taught me much about compassion -- The generosity of others -- The importance of being a good neighbor and a good friend -- You never stop being a parent -- The world isn't against you -- A nation of immigrants -- The strength of women -- Cancer is a word, not a sentence -- Good health care is critical -- Human tragedies -- Dealing with grief -- A helping hand to others -- Being a criminal is addictive -- Homeless but not helpless -- Everyday heroes -- Angels among us -- Don't let your anger get in the way -- Your attitude matters -- Lying to me is lying to yourself -- Respect is valuable -- Politics -- Make yourself useful -- Accidents are opportunities -- Respect for our veterans -- Diversity works -- Know your true value -- Tough love -- Acknowledge your mistakes -- The road less traveled -- A changed life -- Never give up -- Make the tough decisions -- Use what you know and who you know to help others.